Refering to what you say about people getting frustrated when you ask questions, that happened to me when I first became deaf. People looked impatient and were unable to convey messages to me in a way that allowed me to feel included. But over time, people got used to it and started being able t0 say just the right things. Even stramgers I met in public used to have trouble writing and communicating with me the right way. But now, three years after I became deaf, strangers on the streets that I had nmever met before are able to write to me the moment I ask them to and they instinctively know what information I need when I ask. So I believe we need to be at peace with ourselves and be comfortable with the way we are forst. Once I got used to being deaf and need to ask people fopr information, I must have calmed down and able to ask for help with more patience. This puts people at ease so that they can respond with confidence too.

But if the person needing help is frustrated herself, people will feel suffocated and not know how else in order to satisfy us.